A little bit of Marvin ;)

OK you asked for it ;)

A little bit of Marvin is what I call, Sexual Healing!

If you don't know the song Sexual Healing by Marvin Gaye then where have you been?

I have never been one to shy away from speaking about getting my groove on.

Just ask the beautiful business women that came into my life recently via
The Bizness Babes course run by The Body Shop.

BTW, if your a mum with an idea for a business, you can find out more about the Bizness Babes course here.

I somehow became known as the 'sex' one, just because well, sex is natural sex is good, not everybody does it, but everybody...hang on that's George Michael not Marvin!

Back to Marvin ;)

Everybody needs Sexual Healing.

I know, I know, for many of you it is the last thing you want to do at the end of the day (or any other time).

Most of us go through stages where we lose our libido.

Just ask the GM (my gentleman for those newbies) how it felt when I used to tell him that I do not want it, need it, nor think about it anymore and by asking me, he is simply adding YET another thing on my TO DO LIST...HIM!

Not very nice :( I am sorry My Love...

Men need sexual healing, so do women. You cannot expect to keep knocking your husband/partner back and him not get frustrated. He may even start creeping...

Now I hear some of you say "Stacey, are you saying that if we don't give our husbands/partners sex, they will go elsewhere for it?"

Ummm, YEP, they could. Or they will at least think about it...

I am not saying it is right, or OK, but it is reality.

Lets look at it like this, if your husband/partner took a vow to provide your food (and no-one else) for the rest of your life, til death do you part and then suddenly said "Yeah, about the food thing, I don't want to. I'm tired."

Would you just accept it? Would you be happy? Would you NEVER eat again?

No, at the very least you would be thinking about food, thinking about EATING food, someone else's food, ANY food because you're hungry and you need food!

Are you getting my point?

OK granted, we don't need sex to survive like we need food, water and oxygen... but you can't tell me it doesn't make life better?

There clearly is some truth in that we get our affection needs met from our babies once we become mothers. However, they don't stay babies forever.

Without your husband/partner you wouldn't even have these beautiful, precious children to cuddle and kiss...so why does he suddenly move to the bottom of the list?

Do I really need to tell you that studies show that people who have sex 3 times a week look considerably younger than people who don't? That sex releases feel-good endorphins leaving you happy...

That it helps you and your man feel closer?

If your man is anything like the GM...he will be dancing around the house, doing the dishes and sending you off to 'Country Road' sales (oh how I do love a good CR Sale) and actually wanting you to show him everything you bought!

So, are you still with me? Or did you run and exit this site as soon as I mentioned sex?

You're still here, GOOD.

Like everything else I promote as a Sunny Mummy way of life....getting a little bit of Marvin is one of them.

If you are not as interested as you used to be (lets face it, most of us are in this boat), you have to remind yourself to put sex ON your to-do list.

You have to put it IN your brain and think about it. It is not boring to schedule sex, better to schedule it and connect with your partner than not have it at all.

You can't schedule it all the time though...you have to have some variety.

Back to food, you wouldn't eat the same thing everyday so why would you have sex every Thursday at 9pm in the same position?

Mix it up, try new things, go on a date (and if you have no sitter, then put the kids to bed and 'date' at home) then go cruisin in your car together, then parking (in your garage after the cruise, its safer)!

Put a bit of Marvin on your to-do list then get out of the bed and into, say the walk-in wardrobe ;) Your husband/partner will be 'walkin on sunshine' and so will you!

You were once 'lovebirds' and created little birdies together, so whats changed?

You have a full nest?

Well your nest will be empty again one day before you know it, so you better make sure you still like that Birdie cos it will be just you and him baby...

So off you go...

Fluff up your nest, fly together and you will both be rockin in the treetops all day long, oh hang on that's the Jackson 5 ;)

Tweet tweet!

Keep Shining,

Stace x